Feminine Power:
Women's Key to High Self-Esteem

by Vered Neta

For quite some years I had the lingering feeling that something was missing in my life, regardless my successes and what I had achieved.
A few years ago I realized that I was still trying to prove myself to somebody.
I was driving myself crazy in my attempts to be 'Wonder-Woman'. Trying to be a successful career woman, a passionate lover, a giving mother, an ideal daughter and the perfect friend to everyone who asked for attention.

I ended up drained, almost burned out and ultimately... dissatisfied.

Do you recognize a similar pattern in your life?

What is it that drives us women so hard to prove ourselves?
How come that no matter how successful we are, we're still not satisfied?
Why is it that we frequently find ourselves torn between our career/studies and our family and relationships?
And why is it that we spend so little time, energy or money taking care of ourselves (mind, body, emotions and soul)?

Many women live their lives feeling that 'something is missing' or 'something is not OK with me'.
That is because we have forgotten the natural way - we forgot our Feminine Power.

What is Feminine Power?

Feminine Power is the recognition and honoring of the values of the female energy, and giving it the due importance and place in our daily life. It is living according to our natural way of being, and who in fact we are; in essence, living as nature intended us to be.

The problem is that we were all raised in a culture predisposed to, and orientated around, the male energy.
Therefore the values with which we live with are those of the male energy.
The values of the female energy are devalued and prejudged as limiting or unsupportive.

For more than 8,000 years we adopted the values of the male energy thus making them THE WAY of life.
We call it HIS-STORY...
These standards and values have been so ingrained in our conscious and unconscious minds that it is difficult to recognize them today, and even harder to let them go.

For us women, these standards and values create a split between our natural way of being and the way we 'should' be and behave. This split directly reduces our self-esteem, as we are unable to act according to our true self. Instead we try to become somebody else in order to be accepted and be (so called) successful.

Self-esteem is the foundation of our consciousness and it determines everything in our life. It is your approval and disapproval of you. It is the degree to which you feel, think and believe yourself to be capable, worthy and significant. Most importantly, your self-esteem defines how you relate to yourself. It is about your values.
Obviously, if our values are regarded as minor and not important, our self-esteem as women shrinks. All this occurs, as the values and judgments upon the feminine energy are buried deep inside us as the long-term result of thousands of years of cultural conditioning.

The problem becomes even more acute, as at a conscious level, women today are being indoctrinated with the message that they are both equal and capable, liberated and educated, and therefore the world should now be a free place in which to move and conquer. However, when attempting to do so, the old conditioned judgments raise their ugly heads and lower our self-esteem.

In order for us women to raise our self-esteem, we need to firstly recognize those self and society imposed historic values and standards, which are so destructive to our feminine origin. Those values that 'make us wrong'. We need to start learning about and connecting to the values of that human society that existed for nearly 40,000 years on this earth before the patriarchal society took over our culture.

So what did that society stand for? What were the values of that feminine culture? The values that once directed that culture, are these days, regarded as not supportive of progress and therefore limiting. Those values, such as working from intuition and not logic. Such as living and regarding life as a cycle and not a linear process. Such as showing feelings and emotions instead of trying to control them. Such as being more socially oriented than striving for hierarchy and order.

When will we as women accept that dreaming and creativity are just as important as technology and goal orientation?
That being a good listener is equally as powerful as speaking abilities; that service is a quality that results in so much more than the meaningless pursuit of material acquisition? And that the ageless wisdom resulting from experience and years is more valuable than the 'head knowledge' acquired from books and universities? When do we start utilizing our Feminine Power?

When we acknowledge with pride, our need for support, teamwork and cooperation in order to flower, that is when we start utilizing our Feminine Power. When we acknowledge our nurturing abilities and cease viewing them as a hindrance for our advancement and growth, that is when we start using our Feminine Power.

Once we start living this way, we become proud of what truly is, our natural being as women. We begin to make the connection to our internal power and we gain a truly high self-esteem as women therefore finally living without that constant conflict between our outer and inner world.

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